In 2014, the news that Dai Xiuli, the richest woman in Heilongjiang, worth over 100 million, was abandoned by her British husband and wanted a divorce, shocked the country.
What people never expected was that the husband's reason for filing for divorce was because his wife was too rich and he couldn't bear it…
Dai Xiuli and her husband have been together for 21 years, and they have gone through ups and downs. The husband has watched his wife go from having nothing to becoming a billionaire today. Such a life is something that many people would never dare to imagine in their lifetime.
But what did Dai Xiuli do to make her husband think about running away from this relationship?
Get rich in 20 years
In 2014, before it was revealed that Dai Xiuli, the richest man in Heilongjiang, with a net worth of over 100 million, was divorcing, many people did not know Dai Xiuli, a successful woman, and some even did not know her name at all. At that time, Dai Xiuli was called "the most mysterious richest woman."
At that time, everyone had no impression of Dai Xiuli, but when it comes to "Renhe", some football fans may have an impression. The one who defeated Evergrande to win the championship was Guizhou Renhe Football Club.
At that time, Dai Xiuli was just a reporter, but her five-year journalistic career was a turning point in Dai Xiuli's life.
In the past five years, Dai Xiuli has not only broadened her horizons, but also accumulated a lot of connections. Her cheerful and lively personality has made many people her friends.
As a reporter, she often travels around and sometimes lives abroad for a long time, but she has always been very concerned about domestic economic development, because in her opinion, after the founding of New China, the country will have new policies every year to help more people realize their dreams.
Dai Xiuli believed that this would be the moment to change her destiny, and she must seize this hard-won opportunity. In daily life, Dai Xiuli often contacted her younger brother Dai Yongge on the phone to learn about the recent economic events in the country. It was with the help of her younger brother that Dai Xiuli knew all the domestic economic information.
Dai Xiuli's hometown is in Harbin. When she was a child, she often heard people from the older generation saying that during the Anti-Japanese War, Harbin was often attacked by the Japanese air force. If she ran a step too late, she would be killed.
So during the Anti-Japanese War, Harbin built a lot of air-raid shelters. When the Japanese air raids occurred, everyone took the opportunity to run to the air-raid shelters to take shelter.
However, after the founding of New China, the country gradually relaxed its control over air-raid shelters. This also allowed Dai Xiuli to see opportunities. After returning from abroad, Dai Xiuli met many big bosses in Harbin at the time through the help of friends.
Not long after, Dai Xiuli contracted all the air-raid shelters in Harbin. Later, through renovation, Dai Xiuli turned all these air-raid shelters into underground shopping malls and began leasing them to external parties. This behavior made Dai Xiuli make a lot of money.
But Dai Xiuli did not end there, but continued to start the company in Harbin to enter the commodity wholesale industry. Because she had many shopping malls at the time, these goods were also very easy to sell.
In 2021, there are more than 30 large and small shopping malls under Dai Xiuli's name across the country. This moment made her instantly see hope. She is no longer the young reporter she was before, but has become the leader of China's underground shopping malls.
After the business stabilized, Dai Xiuli gradually began to enrich her life. In addition to watching some news, she usually played sports. Dai Xiuli liked football very much. When she was abroad, she often went to watch games.
Now, Dai Xiuli has basically achieved financial freedom, and her hobbies cannot be left behind. She will basically never miss any football game. Moreover, Dai Xiuli not only watches it by herself, but also often brings her team to the scene to watch the game.
Dai Xiuli often regards a football game as a business war, and uses her own unique way to encourage the management around her, making them more confident in herself and more confident at work.
Dai Xiuli meets true love
Although Dai Xiuli's career had been stable in China, her love life was still unresolved at that time. It was not until Dai Xiuli returned to the UK that she met Hawken, her mathematics teacher at the university.
Subsequently, during the frequent contact between the two, their relationship gradually heated up, and soon the two fell in love, but at that time, Hawken was not with Dai Xiuli because of her financial resources.
When the two were together, Dai Xiuli had not yet become a billionaire. At that time, the two just liked and loved each other and wanted to get married and live together forever.
In Dai Xiuli's eyes, Hawken is a very gentleman and understands her very well. Hawken takes care of everything in life, which makes Dai Xiuli like Hawken even more. Moreover, the age difference between the two is not big, and they communicate more happily.
It didn't take long for Dai Xiuli and Hawken to get married. The two held a very simple wedding ceremony in London, and in this way the two formed their own little family.
Although Dai Xiuli's career was not bad, the two years of living in the UK completely changed Dai Xiuli's personality. She didn't want to live like this forever and always wanted to live at her own pace, so she asked her husband Hawken to return to China to continue developing her career.
Since Hawken was a university teacher in the UK, he had no way to leave. At first, the two people had very big differences over this matter, and they quarreled several times over this matter.
In the end, Hawken listened to Dai Xiuli and returned to her hometown with her. Hawken also found a teaching job in Harbin and continued to be an English teacher.
Prosperity in business and frustration in love
Soon, the two took care of their work in the UK and returned to Dai Xiuli's hometown of Harbin. Here, Dai Xiuli saw that the market she once occupied had undergone earth-shaking changes.
Many good product locations have been occupied by real estate developers. She has no choice but to choose other places. However, other places are relatively remote and the market effect will not be very good.
You know, in the past, there were basically not many large shopping malls in a city, but Dai Xiuli used another special method to bring shopping malls into thousands of households again.
In 1994, after Dai Xiuli established any commercial company, Dai Xiuli began to flex her muscles at this time, trying to bring all shopping malls in Harbin into her management scope.
But what many people don't understand is that the right to use underground air-raid shelters has always been owned by the state. So what means did Dai Xiuli use to turn all air-raid shelters in Harbin into "underground shopping malls"?
Dai Xiuli's operation also confused many colleagues and business people. No matter what means Dai Xiuli used, Dai Xiuli was able to successfully turn an abandoned air-raid shelter into a shopping mall, which shows that Dai Xiuli has sufficient ability.
Seeing business opportunities, Dai Xiuli brought this "underground shopping mall" model to various cities, because our country was once a war country, and every city built a lot of air-raid shelters.
Dai Xiuli took this opportunity to cooperate with many local real estate developers to turn all air-raid shelters in these provinces into underground shopping malls and rent out the locations of these products.
At that time, many people only knew how to go to shopping malls to buy things, but the emergence of underground shopping malls made many merchants see business opportunities. More and more places were rented for Dai Xiuli's products, and soon the locations were all rented. The successful operation of "underground shops" became Dai Xiuli's first pot of gold.
But these did not stop her from making money. In 2008, Dai Xiuli's "Renhe Company" was listed in Hong Kong. The company's net income instantly reached 300 million yuan. Such high income far exceeded other real estate companies.
But during this period, Dai Xiuli basically put all her energy into her work, and turned a blind eye to Hawken. The relationship between the two soon developed cracks.
At that time, in order to accommodate Dai Xiuli, Hawken had no choice but to follow her to China to teach. However, Hawken did not feel Dai Xiuli's contribution to the family in China.
A year later, Hawken gave up his job and returned home to the UK alone. Of course, Hawken returned this time with a lot of resentment, expressing his dissatisfaction with Dai Xiuli.
Couple's relationship breaks down
It was not until Hawken returned to the UK that Dai Xiuli discovered the seriousness of the matter. In 1996, Dai Xiuli apologized to Hawken and expressed her inner thoughts, and Hawken finally forgave her.
During this time, Dai Xiuli also changed her nationality and joined the United Kingdom, changing her name to "Xiuli Hawken".
But what makes Hawken regret even more is that he thought Dai Xiuli could return to the family and become a qualified mother this time, but Dai Xiuli's behavior made Hawken feel that this marriage was not necessary!
The two people's understanding of money is completely different. Hawken believes that as long as the money is enough, there is no need to pursue something special. However, in Dai Xiuli's eyes, money represents rights, and now that she has money, she must enjoy some benefits that others cannot enjoy.
Hawken often took Dai Xiuli out to eat some roadside food, but these things were indeed very dirty in Dai Xiuli's eyes. She even threw the money on the ground and turned around and left.
Dai Xiuli's behavior made Hawken very miserable, because she was not what she was now when she had no money. It turns out that money can really change a person.
Give me 1 million and nothing else
As Dai Xiuli behaved, the relationship between the two became increasingly cold. Dai Xiuli often blamed Hawken, saying that he didn't understand her well enough, and their marriage soon came to an end.
Perhaps in Dai Xiuli's eyes, her performance is far different from the rich people she knows. Dai Xiuli never shows off or talks about her fortune history in public.
The only time that could be called showing off was when Hawken was living in China. In order to make her husband happy and comfortable, he gave Hawken a villa and a Ferrari.
But these are completely unnecessary in Hawken's eyes. He would rather eat at a roadside stall than drink millions of red wine, and he is not interested in luxury cars.
Although Dai Xiuli gave her husband a Ferrari, Hawken still drove his old dilapidated car. Sometimes he even refused to sit in a Ferrari while riding a bicycle.
The life after Dai Xiuli became a rich woman made her husband Hawken very uncomfortable. He even felt that Dai Xiuli's wealth had affected his life.
Hawken still couldn't understand why Dai Xiuli couldn't enjoy life even though she was already very rich.
Until 2014, 57-year-old Hawken asked Dai Xiuli to divorce him.
After the divorce, the emotional setback had a great impact on Dai Xiuli's heart. For a long time, Dai Xiuli's life could only be described as a mess, and her career had reached a bottleneck and could not continue to prosper.
But in the marriage between Hawken and Dai Xiuli, many people did not understand Hawken's behavior, and even said that he "doesn't know the blessings in the midst of blessings." However, this kind of life is not what Hawken wants.
As a woman, Dai Xiuli is relatively unsuccessful, but she is indeed a successful entrepreneur, and her success deserves respect.
But although money is a necessity in our lives, it is not everything in life, and human happiness cannot be measured by money. In many cases, companionship is the ultimate happiness.
Reference sources
Beijing News – "Chinese women appear on Britain's richest list"
https://news.ifeng.com/c/7fZi16Q6NVS
People's Daily Online – "He and his female boss were revealed to have agreed to divorce, and the British husband is tired of the luxurious life"
http://sports.people.com.cn/n/2014/0312/c22176-24609691.html
Baidu Encyclopedia – "Dai Xiuli"
https://baike.baidu.com/item/%E6%88%B4%E7%A7%80%E4%B8%BD/10471135?fr=ge_ala
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